我们不想有被宠坏的孩子。但是现如今人们稍不注意就把孩子惯坏了，不是么？我们知道他们喜欢的很多很酷的东西。我们喜欢看到他们的笑脸，所以我们给他们那些能让他们开心的东西，甚至没有意识到我们正在把他们变成讨厌鬼—像人们预料的那样。那好吧，因为今天就是我们开始不宠溺的日子。

We don’t intend to have spoiled kids. its just the day & age that lends itself so easily to that, you know? There are great deals on cool things that we know they will love. We love to see them smile so we give them things that will make them happy, not even realizing that we are turning them into ungrateful people – people that expect it. That’s Ok! Because today is the day that we start the UN-SPOILING!

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Stop buying unnecessary things 

1、别再给你的孩子买无用的东西 Stop buying unnecessary things for your child.

你的孩子并不需要它们。然而给他们买东西时感觉很好并且你感觉你是在帮他们。你需要后退一步问自己你是不是在教他们在你花钱买东西之前他们就可以拥有任何他们想要的东西，或者问问你自己，他们是否怎的需要它。

Your child does not need them. While it is nice to buy them things and you feel like you are helping, you need to take a step back and ask yourself if you are teaching them that they can have whatever they want before you buy it, or ask yourself if they really do need it. (Plus, when you aren’t constantly buying them things, they will appreciate it more when you do.

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Teach them to buy things 

2、教会他们为自己买东西 Teach them to buy things for themselves.

努力工作的价值永远不应被忽视。如果你的孩子想要什么东西，告诉他们它值多少钱并让他们努力工作来赚钱。当他们能凭自己的本事完成这件事儿时，他们将感到这事儿有多棒！他们会为此感到自豪！

The value of hard work should never be overlooked. If your child wants something, tell them how much it costs and let them work hard to make that money.  How wonderful they will feel when they can accomplish that on their own!  They are so proud! 

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Teach your child to give

3、教会你的孩子去给予 Teach your child to give.

一段时间之后，我听说扔掉些东西以便为新进家的东西腾地方。如果你的孩子得到了一个新玩具，他们会愿意把旧的分享给其他人吗？（不是破掉的或者没那么值钱的，但其他人会喜欢的）

A while back, I heard that you should get rid of one thing for every new thing that comes into the home.  If your child gets a new toy, have them donate one to someone else (not a broken one or  less-valuable one, but one that someone else will love.) 

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Try cutting back on what you have

4、降低你的物质生活标准 Try cutting back on what you have.

首先，你不需要那么多东西。

其次，当你的孩子去有新玩具的其它地方时（教堂，幼儿园，健身房托儿所或朋友家），他/她会很兴奋。你也不需要把他们都搬回家。少就是多。玩具太多你的孩子也会发晕，就像我们周围被塞的满满当当时也会有被淹没感。

First, you don’t need it all. 

Second, your child will be excited when he/she goes somewhere (church nursery or gym nursery or to a friend’s house) where there are new toys.  You don’t need it at your house, too.   Less is more.  Your child may become overwhelmed with too many toys, just like we become overwhelmed with too much stuff.

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Time matters more

5、时间更重要 TIME matters more.

花更多的时间跟孩子一起做事。你不需要去给他们“买”东西。只需花时间陪他们。如果他们自以为是或者不知感恩，跟他们谈心。跟他们坐下来并解释给他们听。然后坚持到底并达成一个结果。不要用干巴巴的威胁。我学会永不用一个巨大的威胁就像“如果你在这么做，我们今年夏天不去迪斯尼”，因为我无法坚持去这么做。 

Spend more time doing things with your child. You don’t need to “buy” things for them. Just spend time with them. If they act entitled or ungrateful, talk to them. Sit them down and explain it to them. Then follow through with a consequence. Do not ever use empty threats. I learned once that I would never use a huge threat like “If you keep acting this way, we aren’t going to Disney this summer!” Because I would never follow through with that.