读了那么多教育的书籍,还是不知道如何与孩子沟通?看了那么多的段子,还是不知道如何帮助孩子成长?
听听蒙台梭利怎么说!出生于意大利的安科纳地区,意大利第一位女医学博士。第一所“儿童之家”的创业者。她在实验、观察和研究的基础上形成了《蒙台梭利早期教育法》、《蒙台梭利儿童教育手册》、《童年的秘密》、《发现孩子》、《有吸引力的心灵》等,被译成37种语言文字,她的传记被列入12位“帮助世界的人们”传记丛书之一。
让孩子从身边学起
1. Children learn from what surrounds them.
孩子会从周围的一切事物上学习。
关注孩子的优点,不吝惜表扬
2. If a child is often praised, he/she learns how to evaluate others.
如果一个孩子经常被表扬,他/她就会知道怎么去称赞别人。
3. If a child is given frequent encouragement, he/she will have high self-esteem.
如果你经常鼓励孩子,他/她就会建立起高度的自尊心。
4. If a child is given support, he/she will be confident.
你支持孩子,他/她就会变得自信。
5. Concentrate on nurturing the good in a child. That way, there will be no place left in him/her for the bad.
全神贯注去培养孩子身上的闪光点。这样他/她就没机会学坏了。
6. If a child is condescended to, he/she will learn patience.
如果你尽力对孩子和蔼可亲,他/她也会学会耐心待人。
坦诚对待,让他们懂得平等
7. If you are honest with a child, he/she will learn the meaning of fairness.
如果你们对自己的孩子坦诚,他/她会明白平等的意义。
8. Always listen to and answer a child’s questions or requests should he/she approach you.
当孩子主动与你沟通的时候,耐心回答他/她的问题,聆听他们的需求。
营造良好的家庭氛围,给他们安全感
9. If a child feels safe, he/she learns to trust people.
孩子有了安全感,才能学着去信任别人。
10. Help a child to master things early. This can be done by making sure the world around him/her is filled with affection, peace, and love.
让孩子觉得周围的世界充满感情、和平与爱,这样有助于孩子尽早学会理解和掌握事物。
11. If a child lives in an atmosphere of friendship and feels that others need him/her, he/she will learn how to find love.
你们在家中为孩子营造友好的气氛,并让他/她感受到自己是被需要的,他/她才能懂得怎么去发现爱。
恰当批评,不要适得其反
12. If a child is often criticized, he/she learns how to condemn others.
如果一个孩子经常被批评,他/她就会学会怎么去指责别人。
13. If a child is too often made to feel shame, he/she will learn to always feel guilty.
如果你总是批评孩子,让他/她对自己感到羞愧,他/她就会一直抱着负罪感生活。
14. Respect a child even when he/she makes a mistake. He/She will be able to correct his/her error soon enough.
即使孩子犯了错,也要尊重他/她。只有用这样的态度对他/她,他/她才会尽快改正错误。
关注孩子情绪,一起直面校园霸凌
15. If a child is too often derided, he/she becomes shy.
如果一个孩子总是被嘲笑,他/她会变得越来越胆小害羞。
用最好的姿态对待孩子,不要情绪化
16. If a child is shown hostility, he/she will learn to fight.
如果孩子看到他人对自己表现出敌意,他/她也会学会反抗。
17. Never speak badly of a child, in his/her presence or otherwise.
永远不要口不择言,对孩子说“要是没有你就好了”之类的话。
18. Always display the best manners to a child. Show him/her how to be the best he/she can be.
永远都要用最好的姿态对待孩子。这样也能让他/她学会以最佳姿态示人。
授之以渔
19. Always be ready to help a child who requires assistance. And do not tell them how to do it. Show them how to do it and do not say a word. If you tell them, they will watch your lips move. If you show them, they will want to do it themselves.
时刻做好准备,给孩子提供他/她需要的帮助。但是不要告诉他们该怎么做,而是示范给他们看怎么做,不要做任何讲解。因为,如果你告诉他们,他们只会看着说,而你示范的时候,他们则会产生想要自己动手的念头。